feature/*: make Wake-on-LAN conditional, start supporting modular features

This pulls out the Wake-on-LAN (WoL) code out into its own package
(feature/wakeonlan) that registers itself with various new hooks
around tailscaled.

Then a new build tag (ts_omit_wakeonlan) causes the package to not
even be linked in the binary.

Ohter new packages include:

   * feature: to just record which features are loaded. Future:
     dependencies between features.
   * feature/condregister: the package with all the build tags
     that tailscaled, tsnet, and the Tailscale Xcode project
     extension can empty (underscore) import to load features
     as a function of the defined build tags.

Future commits will move of our "ts_omit_foo" build tags into this
style.

Updates #12614

Change-Id: I9c5378dafb1113b62b816aabef02714db3fc9c4a
Signed-off-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@tailscale.com>

build_dist.sh

@@ -37,7 +37,7 @@ while [ "$#" -gt 1 ]; do
 	--extra-small)
 		shift
 		ldflags="$ldflags -w -s"
-		tags="${tags:+$tags,}ts_omit_aws,ts_omit_bird,ts_omit_tap,ts_omit_kube,ts_omit_completion"
+		tags="${tags:+$tags,}ts_omit_aws,ts_omit_bird,ts_omit_tap,ts_omit_kube,ts_omit_completion,ts_omit_ssh,ts_omit_wakeonlan"
 		;;
 	--box)
 		shift