derp/derpserver: split off derp.Server out of derp into its own package

This exports a number of things from the derp (generic + client) package
to be used by the new derpserver package, as now used by cmd/derper.

And then enough other misc changes to lock in that cmd/tailscaled can
be configured to not bring in tailscale.com/client/local. (The webclient
in particular, even when disabled, was bringing it in, so that's now fixed)

Fixes #17257

Change-Id: I88b6c7958643fb54f386dd900bddf73d2d4d96d5
Signed-off-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@tailscale.com>

derp/export_test.go

@@ -0,0 +1,10 @@
+// Copyright (c) Tailscale Inc & AUTHORS
+// SPDX-License-Identifier: BSD-3-Clause
+
+package derp
+
+import "time"
+
+func (c *Client) RecvTimeoutForTest(timeout time.Duration) (m ReceivedMessage, err error) {
+	return c.recvTimeout(timeout)
+}