cmd/tailscale/cli: use optimistic concurrency control on SetServeConfig

This PR uses the etag/if-match pattern to ensure multiple calls
to SetServeConfig are synchronized. It currently errors out and
asks the user to retry but we can add occ retries as a follow up.

Updates #8489

Signed-off-by: Marwan Sulaiman <marwan@tailscale.com>

ipn/ipn_clone.go

@@ -91,6 +91,7 @@ var _ServeConfigCloneNeedsRegeneration = ServeConfig(struct {
 	Web         map[HostPort]*WebServerConfig
 	AllowFunnel map[HostPort]bool
 	Foreground  map[string]*ServeConfig
+	ETag        string
 }{})
 
 // Clone makes a deep copy of TCPPortHandler.