wgengine/magicsock: unify initial bind and rebind

We had two separate code paths for the initial UDP listener bind
and any subsequent rebinds.

IPv6 got left out of the rebind code.
Rather than duplicate it there, unify the two code paths.
Then improve the resulting code:

* Rebind had nested listen attempts to try the user-specified port first,
  and then fall back to :0 if that failed. Convert that into a loop.
* Initial bind tried only the user-specified port.
  Rebind tried the user-specified port and 0.
  But there are actually three ports of interest:
  The one the user specified, the most recent port in use, and 0.
  We now try all three in order, as appropriate.
* In the extremely rare case in which binding to port 0 fails,
  use a dummy net.PacketConn whose reads block until close.
  This will keep the wireguard-go receive func goroutine alive.

As a pleasant side-effect of this, if we decide that
we need to resuscitate #1796, it will now be much easier.

Fixes #1799

Co-authored-by: David Anderson <danderson@tailscale.com>
Signed-off-by: Josh Bleecher Snyder <josharian@gmail.com>

cmd/tailscaled/depaware.txt

@@ -139,6 +139,7 @@ tailscale.com/cmd/tailscaled dependencies: (generated by github.com/tailscale/de
         tailscale.com/util/pidowner                                  from tailscale.com/ipn/ipnserver
         tailscale.com/util/racebuild                                 from tailscale.com/logpolicy
         tailscale.com/util/systemd                                   from tailscale.com/control/controlclient+
+        tailscale.com/util/uniq                                      from tailscale.com/wgengine/magicsock
         tailscale.com/util/winutil                                   from tailscale.com/logpolicy+
         tailscale.com/version                                        from tailscale.com/cmd/tailscaled+
         tailscale.com/version/distro                                 from tailscale.com/control/controlclient+