derp: add frameClosePeer to move around clients within a region

For various reasons (mostly during rollouts or config changes on our
side), nodes may end up connecting to a fallback DERP node in a
region, rather than the primary one we tell them about in the DERP
map.

Connecting to the "wrong" node is fine, but it's in our best interest
for all nodes in a domain to connect to the same node, to reduce
intra-region packet forwarding.

This adds a privileged frame type used by the control system that can
kick off a client connection when they're connected to the wrong node
in a region. Then they hopefully reconnect immediately to the correct
location. (If not, we can leave them alone and stop closing them.)

Updates tailscale/corp#372

derp/derp.go

@@ -95,6 +95,12 @@ const (
 	// framePeerPresent for all connected nodes, and then a stream of
 	// framePeerPresent & framePeerGone has peers connect and disconnect.
 	frameWatchConns = frameType(0x10)
+
+	// frameClosePeer is a privileged frame type (requires the
+	// mesh key for now) that closes the provided peer's
+	// connection. (To be used for cluster load balancing
+	// purposes, when clients end up on a non-ideal node)
+	frameClosePeer = frameType(0x11) // 32B pub key of peer to close.
 )
 
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