net/dns: retry forwarder requests over TCP

We weren't correctly retrying truncated requests to an upstream DNS
server with TCP. Instead, we'd return a truncated request to the user,
even if the user was querying us over TCP and thus able to handle a
large response.

Also, add an envknob and controlknob to allow users/us to disable this
behaviour if it turns out to be buggy (✨ DNS ✨).

Updates #9264

Signed-off-by: Andrew Dunham <andrew@du.nham.ca>
Change-Id: Ifb04b563839a9614c0ba03e9c564e8924c1a2bfd

net/dns/manager_test.go

@@ -613,7 +613,7 @@ func TestManager(t *testing.T) {
 				SplitDNS:   test.split,
 				BaseConfig: test.bs,
 			}
-			m := NewManager(t.Logf, &f, nil, new(tsdial.Dialer), nil)
+			m := NewManager(t.Logf, &f, nil, new(tsdial.Dialer), nil, nil)
 			m.resolver.TestOnlySetHook(f.SetResolver)
 
 			if err := m.Set(test.in); err != nil {