cmd/containerboot,util/linuxfw: create a SNAT rule for dst/src only once, clean up if needed (#13658)

The AddSNATRuleForDst rule was adding a new rule each time it was called including:
- if a rule already existed
- if a rule matching the destination, but with different desired source already existed

This was causing issues especially for the in-progress egress HA proxies work,
where the rules are now refreshed more frequently, so more redundant rules
were being created.

This change:
- only creates the rule if it doesn't already exist
- if a rule for the same dst, but different source is found, delete it
- also ensures that egress proxies refresh firewall rules
if the node's tailnet IP changes

Updates tailscale/tailscale#13406

Signed-off-by: Irbe Krumina <irbe@tailscale.com>

cmd/containerboot/main.go

@@ -481,7 +481,11 @@ runLoop:
 					egressAddrs = node.Addresses().AsSlice()
 					newCurentEgressIPs = deephash.Hash(&egressAddrs)
 					egressIPsHaveChanged = newCurentEgressIPs != currentEgressIPs
-					if egressIPsHaveChanged && len(egressAddrs) != 0 {
+					// The firewall rules get (re-)installed:
+					// - on startup
+					// - when the tailnet IPs of the tailnet target have changed
+					// - when the tailnet IPs of this node have changed
+					if (egressIPsHaveChanged || ipsHaveChanged) && len(egressAddrs) != 0 {
 						var rulesInstalled bool
 						for _, egressAddr := range egressAddrs {
 							ea := egressAddr.Addr()