net/packet, wgengine, tstun: add inter-node TSMP protocol for connect errors

This adds a new IP Protocol type, TSMP on protocol number 99 for
sending inter-tailscale messages over WireGuard, currently just for
why a peer rejects TCP SYNs (ACL rejection, shields up, and in the
future: nothing listening, something listening on that port but wrong
interface, etc)

Updates #1094
Updates tailscale/corp#1185

Signed-off-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@tailscale.com>

net/packet/tsmp_test.go

@@ -0,0 +1,63 @@
+// Copyright (c) 2021 Tailscale Inc & AUTHORS All rights reserved.
+// Use of this source code is governed by a BSD-style
+// license that can be found in the LICENSE file.
+
+package packet
+
+import (
+	"testing"
+
+	"inet.af/netaddr"
+)
+
+func TestTailscaleRejectedHeader(t *testing.T) {
+	tests := []struct {
+		h       TailscaleRejectedHeader
+		wantStr string
+	}{
+		{
+			h: TailscaleRejectedHeader{
+				IPSrc:  netaddr.MustParseIP("5.5.5.5"),
+				IPDst:  netaddr.MustParseIP("1.2.3.4"),
+				Src:    netaddr.MustParseIPPort("1.2.3.4:567"),
+				Dst:    netaddr.MustParseIPPort("5.5.5.5:443"),
+				Proto:  TCP,
+				Reason: RejectedDueToACLs,
+			},
+			wantStr: "TSMP-reject-flow{TCP 1.2.3.4:567 > 5.5.5.5:443}: acl",
+		},
+		{
+			h: TailscaleRejectedHeader{
+				IPSrc:  netaddr.MustParseIP("2::2"),
+				IPDst:  netaddr.MustParseIP("1::1"),
+				Src:    netaddr.MustParseIPPort("[1::1]:567"),
+				Dst:    netaddr.MustParseIPPort("[2::2]:443"),
+				Proto:  UDP,
+				Reason: RejectedDueToShieldsUp,
+			},
+			wantStr: "TSMP-reject-flow{UDP [1::1]:567 > [2::2]:443}: shields",
+		},
+	}
+	for i, tt := range tests {
+		gotStr := tt.h.String()
+		if gotStr != tt.wantStr {
+			t.Errorf("%v. String = %q; want %q", i, gotStr, tt.wantStr)
+			continue
+		}
+		pkt := make([]byte, tt.h.Len())
+		tt.h.Marshal(pkt)
+
+		var p Parsed
+		p.Decode(pkt)
+		t.Logf("Parsed: %+v", p)
+		t.Logf("Parsed: %s", p.String())
+		back, ok := p.AsTailscaleRejectedHeader()
+		if !ok {
+			t.Errorf("%v. %q (%02x) didn't parse back", i, gotStr, pkt)
+			continue
+		}
+		if back != tt.h {
+			t.Errorf("%v. %q parsed back as %q", i, tt.h, back)
+		}
+	}
+}