control/controlbase: enable asynchronous client handshaking.

With this change, the client can obtain the initial handshake message
separately from the rest of the handshake, for embedding into another
protocol. This enables things like RTT reduction by stuffing the
handshake initiation message into an HTTP header.

Similarly, the server API optionally accepts a pre-read Noise initiation
message, in addition to reading the message directly off a net.Conn.

Updates #3488

Signed-off-by: David Anderson <danderson@tailscale.com>

control/controlbase/interop_test.go

@@ -29,7 +29,7 @@ func TestInteropClient(t *testing.T) {
 	)
 
 	go func() {
-		server, err := Server(context.Background(), s2, controlKey)
+		server, err := Server(context.Background(), s2, controlKey, nil)
 		serverErr <- err
 		if err != nil {
 			return