Define PeerCapabilty and PeerCapMap as the new way of sending down
inter-peer capability information.
Previously, this was unstructured and you could only send down strings
which got too limiting for certain usecases. Instead add the ability
to send down raw JSON messages that are opaque to Tailscale but provide
the applications to define them however they wish.
Also update accessors to use the new values.
Updates #4217
Signed-off-by: Maisem Ali <maisem@tailscale.com>