This lets clients quickly (sub-millisecond within a local LAN) map
from an ambiguous disco key to a node key without waiting for a
CallMeMaybe (over relatively high latency DERP).
Updates #3088
Signed-off-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@tailscale.com>
(cherry picked from commit 75a7779b42164e9de250ab83158409e72054db13)