We used a HandleSet before when we didn't have a unique handle. But a
sessionID is a unique handle, so use that instead. Then that replaces
the other map we had.
And now we'll have a way to look up an IPN session by sessionID for
later.
Updates tailscale/corp#17859
Change-Id: I5f647f367563ec8783c643e49f93817b341d9064
Signed-off-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@tailscale.com>