feat(projections): resource counters (#9979)

# Which Problems Are Solved

Add the ability to keep track of the current counts of projection
resources. We want to prevent calling `SELECT COUNT(*)` on tables, as
that forces a full scan and sudden spikes of DB resource uses.

# How the Problems Are Solved

- A resource_counts table is added
- Triggers that increment and decrement the counted values on inserts
and deletes
- Triggers that delete all counts of a table when the source table is
TRUNCATEd. This is not in the business logic, but prevents wrong counts
in case someone want to force a re-projection.
- Triggers that delete all counts if the parent resource is deleted
- Script to pre-populate the resource_counts table when a new source
table is added.

The triggers are reusable for any type of resource, in case we choose to
add more in the future.
Counts are aggregated by a given parent. Currently only `instance` and
`organization` are defined as possible parent. This can later be
extended to other types, such as `project`, should the need arise.

I deliberately chose to use `parent_id` to distinguish from the
de-factor `resource_owner` which is usually an organization ID. For
example:

- For users the parent is an organization and the `parent_id` matches
`resource_owner`.
- For organizations the parent is an instance, but the `resource_owner`
is the `org_id`. In this case the `parent_id` is the `instance_id`.
- Applications would have a similar problem, where the parent is a
project, but the `resource_owner` is the `org_id`


# Additional Context

Closes https://github.com/zitadel/zitadel/issues/9957

cmd/setup/57.go

@@ -0,0 +1,27 @@
+package setup
+
+import (
+	"context"
+	_ "embed"
+
+	"github.com/zitadel/zitadel/internal/database"
+	"github.com/zitadel/zitadel/internal/eventstore"
+)
+
+var (
+	//go:embed 57.sql
+	createResourceCounts string
+)
+
+type CreateResourceCounts struct {
+	dbClient *database.DB
+}
+
+func (mig *CreateResourceCounts) Execute(ctx context.Context, _ eventstore.Event) error {
+	_, err := mig.dbClient.ExecContext(ctx, createResourceCounts)
+	return err
+}
+
+func (mig *CreateResourceCounts) String() string {
+	return "57_create_resource_counts"
+}