fix: sanitize host headers before use

# Which Problems Are Solved

Host headers used to identify the instance and further used in public responses such as OIDC discovery endpoints, email links and more were not correctly handled. While they were matched against existing instances, they were not properly sanitized.

# How the Problems Are Solved

Sanitize host header including port validation (if provided).

# Additional Changes

None

# Additional Context

- requires backports

(cherry picked from commit 72a5c33e6a)

(cherry picked from commit 7520450e11)

internal/api/grpc/server/middleware/instance_interceptor.go

@@ -91,11 +91,11 @@ func addInstanceByDomain(ctx context.Context, req interface{}, handler grpc.Unar
 
 func addInstanceByRequestedHost(ctx context.Context, req interface{}, handler grpc.UnaryHandler, verifier authz.InstanceVerifier, translator *i18n.Translator, externalDomain string) (interface{}, error) {
 	requestContext := zitadel_http.DomainContext(ctx)
-	if requestContext.InstanceHost == "" {
+	if requestContext.InstanceDomain() == "" {
 		logging.WithFields("origin", requestContext.Origin(), "externalDomain", externalDomain).Error("unable to set instance")
 		return nil, status.Error(codes.NotFound, "no instanceHost specified")
 	}
-	instance, err := verifier.InstanceByHost(ctx, requestContext.InstanceHost, requestContext.PublicHost)
+	instance, err := verifier.InstanceByHost(ctx, requestContext.InstanceDomain(), requestContext.RequestedDomain())
 	if err != nil {
 		origin := zitadel_http.DomainContext(ctx)
 		logging.WithFields("origin", requestContext.Origin(), "externalDomain", externalDomain).WithError(err).Error("unable to set instance")